Every relationship is based on two sides. If one side is not happy then it is hard to keep that relationship going. However, it does not mean that every time we have a difficulty we should break the relationship. Oftentimes, it ourselves and we should not blame others. If we have had one or two relationships that break down, then it might be the other person who is at fault, but if we have three, four, five or more then it is definitely our own problem.
There are also different kinds of relationships which have different levels. The most basic one is when you know someone just to say “hello” to and talk about simple things. This is just an acquaintance. Another level is equal, for example, friends or siblings. Another kind of relationship is with someone we need to look up to and respect. This person may take care of us or guides us, giving us something which benefits our life, like a parent or teacher or mentor. Parents give us shelter; food and a teacher or mentor will educate and guide us. This means we should look up to them and should respect them. We do not choose our parents, but most parents have given up a lot for us and we need to respect them. As they get older we should look after them as that is our duty as a child.
One relationship which we can choose is that of our Sifu. The Sifu we choose will have a big influence on us as we will spend a lot of time learning from them over a long period, therefore we need to take this choice seriously. After one or two lessons or one or two seminars we do not have a relationship yet even though we still call them our Sifu. Sifu and Todai (student) relationships take time to develop. So we must choose our Sifu carefully.